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Monday Motivation: Week 13

How forgiving are you?

To forgive is to: accept that what happened has happened; it is to choose to find at least some iota of understanding for the other person’s actions, and then decide it’s in your best interest to let it go and move on.

Forgiving a person is never about the person but about setting your own self free. Like a cancer, unforgiveness grows and eats deep into your core by breeding resentment, bitterness, rage which may manifest in emotional and physical illness.

What has happened has happened, you can’t change the past, you can’t deny the fact that the incident occurred in the way it did but you can live above it. A lot of people think that forgiveness is for the other person or offender but no, it is for them.

Forgiveness is a whole lot more than telling your offender “I forgive you”. Forgiveness is about making peace with your past and realizing that the past could not have been different than it was.

Forgiveness is about releasing yourself from the “victim thoughts” like, “They could have…. They should have…If only they did _____, …then they wouldn’t have hurt me and I wouldn’t still be suffering!”

Reality is no matter how hard you try, you cannot go back and change the past. No one has, No one can.

The past cannot be undone. You cannot change your past no matter how hard you try. However, you can change your perception of it.

In changing your perception of the past, you must understand that more than any other thing, forgiveness is for and about you.

Forgiveness is more than the words ‘am sorry’. Forgiveness is for the offended not the offender. Forgive yourself, forgive the situation. Forgive the circumstance and breath. Free yourself.

Though it may appear to you like “they got away with their offence”, the law of the universe will always catch up with the offenders, so don’t worry they will definitely meet their waterloo some day. You may not know it nor see them suffer the consequence of their action, but I promise you they will definitely suffer.

Holding onto unforgiveness does not enforce justice on anyone rather it makes you bitter and resentful.

It replays the memories of the hurt in your head, causing you renewed pain and suffering. Forgiveness is all about you and all for your good.

Hellloooo, Welcome to my “Bee” world. I am Hephzibah Olokode. I’m a 20 something year old lady currently living in Ibadan, a city in Nigeria. I am glad to have this opportunity to share not only my thoughts, life and journey but also share the life and journey of others with you on this platform. With the sole aim of inspiring you to be a better version of yourself, ‘Hephzybee’ is a blog that focuses on lifestyle, relationship and other inspirational media contents aimed at wide range of audiences so there is something for everybody. I feel there is going to be a lot in store, so join me and together lets enjoy this ride

3 comments on “Monday Motivation: Week 13

  1. I am happy to find persons with your thoughts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  2. “Forgiveness is a whole lot more than telling your offender “I forgive you”. Forgiveness is about making peace with your past and realizing that the past could not have been different than it was.”

    “Forgiveness is about releasing yourself from the “victim thoughts” like, “They could have…. They should have…If only they did _____, …then they wouldn’t have hurt me and I wouldn’t still be suffering!””

    I really needed to read this, thank you!

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